It’s okay if you need care. I’m not talking about “everyone needs each other” care. It’s okay if you need help with basic things to get through the day. You are not harming your spouse, family, or friends if they structure their lives differently so that you are okay.
Sadly, providing ongoing care for others sometimes gets framed as damaging for the people who provide care. It can be hard not to internalize this in a culture that’s all over prizing independence. It’s okay if your needs are hard but people still show up. It is okay to be in the hard together. I’m going to say it again: It’s okay if you need care.
[We’re moving in just two days and my pain levels are high. It’s such a challenge to grapple with this for me over this week that I’m putting out this short post in case other chronic folks are facing this challenge too.]